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What is the valid, important need below our habitual choices?

When we’re under stress, we go back to our oldest patterns and habits. We tend to look for what’s easiest for our bodies and brains to give us what we need. But as James Clear points out, that can have a downside.

Every habit produces multiple outcomes across time. Unfortunately, these outcomes are often misaligned. With our bad habits, the immediate outcome usually feels good, but the ultimate outcome feels bad. With good habits, it is the reverse: the immediate outcome is unenjoyable, but the ultimate outcome feels good. The French economist Frédéric Bastiat explained the problem clearly when he wrote, “It almost always happens that when the immediate consequence is favorable, the later consequences are disastrous, and vice versa. . . . Often, the sweeter the first fruit of a habit, the more bitter are its later fruits.”

This mindful practice that we do together is an opportunity to go below the surface of our habit to find our valid and important need (thanks to my genius therapist, James Yates for the phrase). When we give ourselves space to actually feel the need, we can make choices about how we want to do that rather than getting caught in the swift current of habit.

Today’s Dancing Water Daily is an All Out All You Dance Party that dives into valid, important needs that may be buried under habit. Make some space in your calendar and in your living room to move into the sensation of what you really need. Find the video here.

Title song for Dancing Water Daily:
Kate’s Waltz 3:44 Bad Snacks, YouTube Audio Library

Playlist for Fri Apr 24 2020 ~ All Out All You Dance Party:

Chill – Disco Ultralounge 3:51 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
The Emperor’s Army 6:07 Jeremy Blake YouTube Audio Library
Together With You 3:47 JR Tundra YouTube Audio Library
Hip Bone 3:42 Quincas Moreira YouTube Audio Library
Infados 3:43 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
Exit the Premises 3:30 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
Hit the Streets (Version 1) 3:43 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
The Creek 3:31 Topher Mohr and Alex Elena YouTube Audio Library
Sunflower 3:57 Topher Mohr and Alex Elena YouTube Audio Library
Drifting 2 3:58 Audionautix YouTube Audio Library
Dream Culture 3:34 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library

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Help me to continue to create Dancing Water Daily practices! No matter how far apart we are physically, we are all connected. The path that we all move along together is held by an Invisible Net of Love that is always there even if we can’t see it. The Dancing Water Daily practices is my thread in that net. Please support my work by offering a donation so I can keep creating these practices for you. With your generous support, I can continue to invest in making these classes available to anyone who can benefit. Please click here to be part of the Dancing Water Daily Net of Love. And please “Send to a Friend” to avoid PayPal fees! Suggested donation: $5 a class or $15 a week ~ and truly, any amount helps enormously.

Shout outs to this week’s generous anonymous donors and Avril Somlyo , Kristin vonThelen, Susan Perry and Kathie Anzalone! A thousand thanks, friends! Together we can extend this Net of Love to reach everyone who needs it.

AND if, like me, your finances are akimbo, I get it. Another way to help is to share these video practices. Send a link to a friend! Post it on social media! Help spread the word about nourishing movement and moving together apart.
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Monday, Apr 20 ~ Dancing Water Nourishing Movement: A Great Need ~ find it here
Tuesday, Apr 21 ~ Dancing Water Nourishing Movement ~ find it here
Wednesday, Apr 22 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga ~ find it here
Thursday, Apr 23 ~ Dharma Dance from Dancing Water ~ find it here
Friday, Apr 24 ~ All Out, All You Dance Party from Dancing Water ~ find it here Saturday, Apr 25 ~ Ajna (Self-Guided) Practice
Sunday, Apr 26 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga

I always love to hear from you ~ please reach out with email or a comment and let me know how you’re doing and how I can help more!
Until soon, my friends!

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