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here’s the link, you can read it here.
It’s worth noting that bringing what’s easiest isn’t a bad thing, necessarily. Look at the intention behind bringing the easiest: am I exhausted or sad or generally low on resources? Then, bring on the easy! But if bringing the easiest is based on habit or depending on someone else to carry the load, another choice might be yummier.
Again, coming empty-handed is not necessarily a bad thing…since your presence means you are bringing something. You are giving others a chance to offer generosity and care which is a gift. Again, looking at habit and intention is always the best way for me to decide if it’s a healthy choice.
Use your awareness and witness to notice all that you are bringing to a situation. Not just what you say but what you don’t say. Not just what you do but what you don’t do. It’s more than just what’s in the pot…
This is often a question I ask myself before (or less skillfully after) a gathering. How do I want to show up? Knowing that I can only control what I bring, what do I want to do or say?
When I’m bringing my best, it’s easy to focus on that. Notice if you only want to talk about your idea at the meeting or if you forget to ask everybody about how their day went at the dinner table. The whole point of being together is to share what we all have to offer.
Question 3 may seem to imply that you have to taste something that everybody brings. But if you feel terrible when you eat sugar, then don’t have the cupcakes! If someone is dancing big in class and that feels unsettling to you, dance in another part of the room. AND remembering that everybody’s offerings are what makes the whole experience. Appreciating the gift of everybody (whether or not you eat the cupcake) is what makes pot lucks nourishing.
Happy Pot Lucking, everybody! As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the Pot Luck of Life … and how the illustrated posts are landing!
Pam and her husband, Manu are religious studies/Buddhist studies scholars who are also fascinated with popular art and culture. When Oscar night comes around, for example, they’ve already seen every nominated film and they have rich, thought-provoking things to say about each one.
A recommendation from Pam and Manu, then, is serious stuff … but with the lure of “the power of movement”? My husband and I had the first episode of The OA queued up to watch that very night.
We devoured all eight episodes in less than a week. Its unusual story line, unconventional storytelling style, excellent acting with a tendency toward mysterious loose ends all appealed to me. But even if I hadn’t loved it, the whole thing would have been worth watching for the incredible and (literally) moving last scene.
No spoilers, but if someone asked me what The OA was about, I would say:
Two different sets of five people
each person is isolated and alone (for a variety of reasons)
each group comes together to learn 5 movements
when those movements are moved together
Intellect and thinking are highly prized in our culture while the wisdom and power of movement is hardly even an afterthought. Physical movement that is revered in Western culture is centered on sports and competition. Domination and winning is everything. Collaboration and connection are only considered in the context of a team working toward that winning and domination. Even dancing is turned into a win-lose competition.
By overlooking the wisdom of moving individually and together, our culture clouds the truth of our interconnectedness and dismisses one of the joys of being human. The simple fact that each of us has a body gives us the fundamental right to the pleasure and power of moving uniquely and the pleasure and power of moving together.
Often, when I’m preparing to teach, I choreograph alone in my studio. The movements feel good and connected to the music, but nothing ever prepares me for what happens when a room full of people do those movements together. Each in their own particular way, and all together. It is breath taking. Every single time.
What’s true in the body is true in all realms.
I am my own rescue. – Lisa Nichols
(click here for her interview with Steve Harvey)
We are all just walking each other home. ~ Ram Dass
Life is full of paradox. Here’s a big one: we are all responsible for ourselves and we are utterly and inextricably connected to each other. Each side of this paradox is absolutely true. American culture celebrates self-sufficiency and independence to such a degree, though, that we forget that it is impossible to separate ourselves from each other. Impossible.
Martin Luther King Jr., whose life and work we celebrate this week, spoke to this paradox in his 1963 letter from a Birmingham jail:
Moreover, I am cognizant of the interrelatedness of all communities and states. I cannot sit idly by in Atlanta and not be concerned about what happens in Birmingham. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. Never again can we afford to live with the narrow, provincial “outside agitator” idea. Anyone who lives inside the United States can never be considered an outsider anywhere within its bounds. (my emphasis)
If suffering or injustice doesn’t precisely effect us, it’s easy to turn away. But that choice is a turning away from ourselves. The adage “every man for himself” is based on a deep misunderstanding of the inherent interconnection of all life. Instead of freezing or ignoring, bring all your particular skills, talents, and gifts and participate in the movement of everyone.
Dance your own dance and dance it together.
PS: Manu writes a blog about religion and pop culture and one of his recent posts was about The OA (check it out here but note that unlike me he DOES include a spoiler).
Art in Action is a weekly post: a short, practical guide to applying the ideas and principles in the Focus Pocus posts to your body and life. As always, I love to hear from you about how you use them and how you translate the ideas into action.
I’m all about feet.
Since 1999, I’ve been dancing barefoot and exploring what happens in the body when we take off our shoes and move as we were designed. I’m always interested in ways of stretching, massaging, strengthening, and generally caring for feet since happy feet are the foundation of a happy body (just ask me after I’ve spent the evening standing in pointy, pointy high heeled shoes how happy I’m feeling).
But when I stumbled on this video I learned something that set up a cascade of unexpected discoveries that surprised even a foot health fan like me.
The Pilates foot release video has a nice protocol for stretching that I’ve been enjoying but it’s not that different from other stretches I’ve done on my feet with a variety of balls (tennis, Yamuna , foot rollers , etc.). What fascinated me was the connection between releasing my feet and releasing my hamstrings.
Not only did it feel good to stretch and open my feet, I loved that I could also feel the release through my back legs. That discovery had me looking for other connections…
As I noticed a lengthening and release in the back of my legs, I noticed a corresponding release through my low back. I have a tendency towards lumbar lordosis (or duck butt)
but as my feet and back legs released, my tailbone dropped down allowing my lumbar spine to let go. So I kept following the thread…
As my low back released from its habitual hyperextension, my low core and belly naturally turned on. <a href=”http://As we’ve talked about before in this space” target=”_blank”>As we’ve talked about before in this space, core strength is key to moving in a with grace and power but a perhaps surprising benefit of core engagement is…
…that a strong core, allows me to step more lightly, with more mobility and agility without taxing my feet which allows them to stay (you guessed it) more flexible.
This chain works in both directions: I can also focus on stepping lightly, without dropping my foot, and that strengthens my core, which releases my tailbone and lumbar spine, which lengthens my hamstrings which creates more ease in my feet.
And all of this connection sleuthing has me curious about other unexpected connections in the body. Some of the ones I also play with:
• Relaxing my jaw allows my hips to let go
• Pressing my feet into the floor and opening the arch of my feet allows me to breathe more deeply (stretching my diaphragm)
• The thoughts and images I have in my mind profoundly connect with how my body feels and moves
As ever, I’d love to hear how this chain of connection reverberates in your body and any surprising connections that you’ve discovered in your own practice! Do tell.
“Thank you for what you said in class today. It was exactly what I needed to hear.”
My ears prick up when I hear these words. Whenever someone says this, I’m curious rather than self-congratulatory. The pearl of wisdom that I craft and practice and pat myself on the back for is never what they are talking about. Nope. The things that people remember, the things that make a difference are the almost always ones that I don’t think about at all but pop out from whoknowswhere.
Sometimes I feel shaky and uneasy when I think of my words, especially the ones that I don’t think much about, landing in people’s ears and making an impact. Especially since the ones people tell me about are the helpful ones but those aren’t the only kinds of impact my words have made.
This is true for all of us. We make our way through the world making connections whether we realize it or not. The choices we make when we interact with our children, partners, friends, colleagues, neighbors and strangers all ripple out in ways that mostly we will never, ever know.
Of course, we can’t control how our words or choices land with another person. There are a myriad of complicated interpersonal dynamics at play even in the act of saying good morning. But if we pretend that our choices are made in isolation, that we aren’t inextricably connected with each other and our environment, then we are blind to the part we play in the world. If we assume what we do doesn’t matter, we are missing a huge chunk of the picture.
And the chain of connection extends beyond how you speak to people. The chain of connection extends to what you buy, how you spend your time, what occupies your thoughts, what you eat and what kind of packaging it comes in. Recognizing the ripple effect of our choices means that I understand the price that someone is paying for the cheap clothes or food or gas I buy. By seeing the interconnectedness of all things, I understand that a few hours wiled away on Facebook means that those hours were not spent doing something else.
It can feel overwhelming, I grant you. There are times when I just want to be a little inconsequential woman who can do her thang without strumming on the threads that connect me to everything. But it doesn’t work that way. The chains of connection is happening whether I see it or not. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Recognizing the chains of connection is recognizing that I am paying it forward all the time, with everything I do. The question is what is the currency I’m paying with? Am I paying with self-centeredness? kindness? fear? gratitude? thoughtlessness? Seeing the chains of connection invites me to do my best to pay attention to my choices – and reminds me of the endless outward ripples from each one.
Art in Action is a weekly post: a simple, practical guide to applying the ideas and principles in the Focus Pocus posts to your body and life. As always, I love to hear from you about how you use them and how you translate the ideas into action.
What if our whole understanding of the world was off? What if we put a lot of attention on the separate parts, in particular powerful individuals and companies and countries but we were missing the bigger picture? What if we are throwing away the connective tissue?
As in the body, our lives are not just about the separate parts and people floating in isolation. Our lives are about connection. Just as we can make different choices in our bodies by bringing awareness to the web of connective tissue that supports us, we can also make different choices in our days by bringing awareness to the web of connections that holds us up.
There are countless ways of exploring connection in the world. Here are 6 to play with (and I’d love to hear others!):
How do you know you need to go to the bathroom? You can feel it, right? How do you know it’s time to eat? You can feel it … but sometimes I eat because it’s time to eat or I don’t stop eating even though I’m no longer hungry. We are conditioned to ignore or override physical sensation. Today, experiment with pausing to see what you feel several times and listening for the details of sensation. Instead of dissociating, what would happen if you connected to the sensations you feel?
The other day, my husband made an off-hand comment that sent me into a tailspin. I was tangled up in a story of thoughts about what he’d said and that thought-tangle was physically painful. Somewhere in the mess of it, I realized that it was my story that felt so terrible. When I got curious about the thought pattern I was trapped in, I connected differently to what he said. You are not your thoughts and your thoughts aren’t necessarily true. Connect to them with curiosity.
Emotions are called feelings for a reason. Everybody’s had a gut response, or been heart-broken, or felt the stomach clench of upsetting news. Emotions create sensations and noticing those sensations is a direct way of creating emotional connection with yourself. For example, I know that when my throat feels tight that I’m not saying something that I need to say. Connect to your emotional self by connecting to the feeling of feelings.
Connecting to others may seem like the most obvious of life’s connective tissue, but how much are you actually connecting? It’s easy to be distracted by the busy-ness and stress of life (not to mention all the binging and bonging screens and devices!) and not give your full attention to someone you’re with. I often find myself in a conversation and instead of listening deeply, I’m thinking about what I will say next, how what they are saying relates to me or how I can help. Experiment with softening your ears and only listening to another person. Relax the reaction to jump in with a story or idea or help. Perhaps paradoxically, saying less can be connecting more.
Put your hands in the dirt or your feet in the sand. Listen to the gurgle of a stream or breathe in the fragrance of honeysuckle. Connecting with nature can be simultaneously relaxing and energizing. A friend’s favorite insomnia cure is walking barefoot in the grass. Another relieves anxiety by swimming underwater. Watching the sky is a great perspective-opener for me. Connecting with nature is really connecting with a part of ourselves. What would happen if you let yourself connect deeply with the natural world around you…even if that’s appreciating your salad at lunch?
Ever get an insight or idea that seemed to come from nowhere and everywhere at the same time? Ever get a spacious, indefinable feeling that something larger than you is at work? Spirit doesn’t mean religious (although for some people, the two are closely related). Connecting to spirit is about connecting to that which is greater than yourself and that can happen anywhere, anytime, doing anything with anybody. What would happen if you intentionally connected with spirit?
Our electronic, social-networked, interwebs world may seem connected. But clicking “like” isn’t connection. Words and pictures and videos can touch us and resonate but there is a difference between reading about a hug and actually getting one. (Writer, Melissa Sarno, wrote beautifully about this recently.)
How do you strengthen the web of connection in your life? Jump in and share in the comments below or send me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) or have an in-person conversation with someone about connection! After all, connection is what life is all about.
What if our whole understanding of the body was off? What if we put a lot of attention on all of our separate parts (in particular the bones, joints, muscles and organs) but we were missing the bigger picture?
Until recently, anatomists studying the human body saw the web of interconnected fibrous tissue that surrounds and interweaves the body literally as a throw away. When dissecting a cadaver, the scientist would slice the connective tissue and toss it away so they could get to the “good stuff.”
Our understanding of connective tissue is evolving to reveal that it is far more important, sensitive and powerful than early researchers believed. And that understanding is changing the way we train, condition and heal the body.
An orange is the classic illustration of connective tissue in the body. Peel and orange and you’ll see each segments contained in a membrane. Then within each segment are pods of juice sealed in their own membrane packets. Our bodies are like that, too. Sheets of elastic fascia surround muscles, organs, joints, nervous system…everything. It is what holds us together and what allows our movement and bodies to stay graceful, strong, and aware.
The system of connective tissue in the human body is complex and interwoven. Here are six ways to begin to bring this supportive system into awareness as we make choices both in the studio and out.
Connective tissue reinforces how you do what you do. If you have an injury, your connective tissue will surround the affected area and support it. If you have parts of your body which are under- or misused, the connective tissue will contract around it. As Paul Grilley writes,
If you don’t use your full range of joint flexibility, the connective tissue will slowly shorten to the minimum length needed to accommodate your activities. If you try to flex your knees or arch your back after years of underuse, you’ll discover that your joints have been “shrink-wrapped” by shortened connective tissue. (Why Try Yin Yoga? In Yoga Journal, Aug 28, 2007)
Joints function best when they move in all ranges of motion including the full range. Every day open and close your thirteen major joints fully to give your connective tissue a stretch. And for a great article about Yin Yoga, go here.
By its very nature, connective tissue connects! It runs from the soles of your feet to your eyebrows so moving your body as a whole (and particularly in diagonal lines) promotes health in the fascia system. Evan Osar explains that,
while the muscles are the drivers, fascia appropriately directs these forces throughout the body. For example, through the myofascial chains, forces generated through the lower extremity can be transferred through the trunk and delivered into powerful movements of the upper extremity. (The Functional Role of Fascia in Posture and Movement: Part I, 20 May 2014)
When doing movements as everyday as walking or as specific as delivering an outward punch, notice the chain of connected energy that moves through the whole system.
There are ten times more sensory receptors in fascial tissue as there are in muscle which means that your connective tissue is essential to your proprioception — your ability to sense where you are in space. Sometimes called the 6th or hidden sense, proprioception is what allows to scratch an itch in the middle of your back and walk up stairs without looking at them. Proprioception keeps your body balanced and your movement fluid. Given the sensory nature of fascia, when your muscles feel sore, it’s likely that what you are actually feeling is the connective tissue around the muscles.
Play with balance and vision (think: stand on one foot with eyes closed) to strengthen the proprioceptive system is a way of tuning in to the connective tissue.
Since it is interwoven throughout the body and directs energy where it’s needed (see Systemic above), the fascia is instrumental in creating graceful, fluid movement. Again, Evan Osar explains that
When functioning optimally, the myofascial system works to virtually suspend the body in the upright position while maintaining “tension and integrity” within the system. More specifically, tensegrity enables the maintenance of erect posture and smooth, coordinated movement. Maintaining erect posture and smooth, coordinated movement under a relative minimal energy expenditure and without compensation is the hallmark of an efficient strategy. (The Functional Role of Fascia in Posture and Movement: Part I, 20 May 2014)
When moving, think about efficiency and elegance. See how you can walk across the room or deliver a side kick efficiently and elegantly. It doesn’t matter what it actually looks like, just notice how that intention changes the feeling and quality of the movement.
Imagine your connective tissue is like elastic bands. Now imagine leaving an elastic band out in the sun for a while. How soft and flexy will it be? Not so much. Hydration is one of the key components to healthy connective tissue. Be sure you’re drinking enough water (caffeine, alcohol and sugary stuff completely don’t count) throughout the day. I aim for around 50-75% of my body weight in ounces daily (so if you weigh 150, you’d be aiming for between 75 and 113 ounces)!
Two of the best ways to soften and open your connective tissue are Yin Yoga and Myofascial Release. Check out classes and workshops near you (I also like this online Yin class). If you’re in Charlottesville, you can take Mia Hamza’s Myofascial Release workshop on Sun, Jun 19, 1230-330pm at EDGE Studio.
Focusing on connective tissue in all its amazing complexity has the potential to transform the way we move, train, condition and heal the body. But what if we take an even larger perspective and think about the connective tissue of our lives and of the world?
Don’t worry, I’m not going to leave you hanging on this. This week’s Art in Action post (coming Tuesday!) will focus on how to keep the connective tissue in your life strong and healthy.