Tue, May 19, 2020 ~ Dancing Water Daily ~ Nourishing Movement: Connection without Comparison

Comparison prevents real connection.

Say I’m on a Zoom call with a friend and she is having a GREAT time in isolation. She is getting super fit and she’s writing a book (and she has an offer from a publisher!) and her marriage has never been better. As I sit on that call, I might start ranking the shit storm that is MY isolation with hers. I get buried under a pile of anger and shame for wearing nothing but yoga pants for two months and doing exactly ZERO yoga. I may be smiling at the screen but the comparison has stopped me from really hearing or being with her.

Or say I read yet another story about the terrible suffering of front line workers in New York and the ludicrous lack of resources they have. I start ranking my comparative good fortune with what they are experiencing, and I dive headfirst into shame for any grumpiness I have with my own sadness, anger, and disappointment.

In her podcast, Unlocking Us, Brené Brown explains that when we go into comparitive suffering “even our pain and our hurt are not immune to being assessed and ranked.” What’s more, if we deny, push away or shove down the emotions that we feel, they “double down and grow and invite shame over for the party.”

Today’s Nourishing Movement practice is about connection without comparison, and holding contrasts and qualities without ranking them. Shame and empathy are incompatible, Dr. Brown explains, so in our mindful movement practice, we’ll allow ourselves our longing and our belonging. Find the video here.

~~~ Music Credits ~~~

Title song for Dancing Water Daily:
Kate’s Waltz 3:44 Bad Snacks, YouTube Audio Library

Playlist for Tue, May 19, 2020 ~ Dancing Water Daily ~ Nourishing Movement: Connection without Comparison
Babylon – Disco Ultralounge 4:15 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
Mia 5:00 Jeremy Blake YouTube Audio Library
Artifact – The Dark Contenent 3:31 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library
Mission Dub 4:05 TrackTribe YouTube Audio Library
Club Step 5:06 Topher Mohr and Alex Elena YouTube Audio Library
James River 5:25 DJ Williams YouTube Audio Library
The Creek 3:31 Topher Mohr and Alex Elena YouTube Audio Library
Rubix Cube 3:43 Audionautix YouTube Audio Library
Asleep with the Sun 6:07 Unicorn Heads YouTube Audio Library
Facile 3:32 Kevin MacLeod YouTube Audio Library

THIS WEEK’S DANCING WATER DAILY PRACTICES ~ Connection without Comparison
Monday, May 18 ~ Nourishing Movement: Connection without Comparison (Courage + Encourage) ~ find it here
Tuesday, May 19 ~ Nourishing Movement: Connection without Comparison (Longing + Belonging) ~ find it here
Wednesday, May 20 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga: Connection without Comparison (Cognizant + Recognize)
Thursday, May 21 ~ Dharma Dance Swirl: Connection without Comparison (Trust + Entrust)
Friday, May 22 ~ All Out All You Dance Party: Connection without Comparison (Member + Re-member)
Saturday, May 23 ~ Ajna (Self-Guided) Practice:  An Approach to Connection without Comparison
Sunday, May 24 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga: Connect with Presence

LAST WEEK’S DANCING WATER DAILY PRACTICES (if you missed any or want to go back to the ones you loved) ~ Thought Monsters & Other Dance Partners
Monday, May 11 ~ Nourishing Movement at Dancing Water: Thought Monsters & Other Dance Partners ~ find it here
Tuesday, May 12 ~ Nourishing Movement at Dancing Water: Monkey Mind & Hummingbird Thinking ~ find it here
Wednesday, May 13 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga: Noticing Thoughts ~ find it here
Thursday, May 14 ~ Dharma Dance from Dancing Water: Nancy & The Shitty Committee Take a Break ~ find it here
Friday, May 15 ~ All Out, All You Dance Party from Dancing Water: You Are Not Your Thoughts ~ find it here
Saturday, May 16 ~ Ajna (Self-Guided) Practice: Tracking Thoughts with Curiosity ~ find it here
Sunday, May 17 ~ Moon River Restorative Yoga: The Space Between Thoughts ~ find it here

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