While no proponent of the Carolyn Burnham “The only person you can count on is yourself” philosophy (Oh, Carolyn, you drama mama), I do believe in knowing how to support yourself from the inside.
How do you anchor yourself when the waves crash over the gunnels?
Experiment to find what supports you and when you find it, practice. Practice when the seas are calm and nothing is at stake.
Then the anchor will be ready when you need it.