Airports are emotional places. Lots of people saying good-bye, anxious about catching a flight (or storing their carry-on, or making their meeting, or the TSA finding their 4.5 oz bottle of shampoo). People worrying about what they’re missing and anticipating coming back. Just a whole stew of emotions. When I’m traveling, I love to watch people interact. I’m not a big eavesdropper, but I love watching the physical language of conversation. Even without hearing the words, I can often see what is being said: the sharp hand gestures speak anger, the outstretched arms show longing, the bowed head displays disappointment, and the hands to heart reveal tenderness.
What I see at the airport is how our bodies communicate to each other. And it’s true: research shows that more than half of what we communicate comes from our body language and gestures rather than our words. That’s really interesting, but did you know that my body language also communicates with me?
In her brilliant TED Talk, Amy Cuddy talks about the science behind how powerful body postures actually make you more powerful. Dr. Cuddy tells her own story about how she changed the way she felt about herself by acting as if she deserved to be where she was (I cry every time I watch it). By consciously using body language, we change the way we feel and … the way we ARE. She speaks about the “impostor syndrome”: the common feeling that we don’t belong or that we’ll be found out as a fraud. (I know a woman who was a gifted and beloved teacher for 35 years. Every September, she would be in her room and she would think, “This is it. This is the year they will come in here and say, ‘You don’t know what you’re doing!’ and I’ll be found out.” I’ve had that feeling many times in my life. Have you?) Dr. Cuddy’s experiments show that we can empower ourselves by the way we hold our bodies. She doesn’t believe in “fake it ‘til you make it,” her research shows that body language allows you to “fake it ‘til you become it.”
So do watch Dr. Cuddy’s wonderful talk (it’s so well worth the time!) and when you do, try out her experiment: stand in a powerful pose for two minutes (my favorite is The Wonder Woman pose – feet wide, standing tall with hands on hips) and see how you feel! The idea is not to do the pose for others but to communicate with your own nervous system and actually feel — become — more powerful!
What’s supercool to me is that Nia has been doing this for 30 years! Tomorrow, I’ll post about how. Come back and play!