Even when I want more love, often when faced with hate, anger, or fear, I bring hate, anger, and fear.
Anyone who hurts is hurting. The dog may bark and seem dangerous, but her leg is in a trap. Suddenly, we see why she snarls.
Think of that dog when someone hurts you (or YOU hurt you). When you are harsh, your brain wants you safe. So ask “What else can I do to keep me safe?” (Listen to Kristin Neff’s talk in The (FREE) Compassionate Brain series!)
Meet shortcomings or unskillful actions (yours or others’) with love, not hate.